A Letter to my Boyfriend: Its Over!

If you were intrigued to read this post based on it's title, then like the rest of us, you love to read about other people’s business. Shame on you! Kidding...I really can't blame you. Through social media  we have invited each other into our lives by over-sharing details of what we eat, feel, think and do. We're constantly in contact but are we losing touch of truly being connected? If you haven't realized by now, this is not a letter to my boyfriend, but keep reading, its still scandalous. 

A few days ago, The Real Housewives of Atlanta Porsha Stewart found out that her husband and former NFL star Kordell Stewart was filing for divorce on Twitter. Ouch!

But here’s the kicker, he was still in the house when she read the tweet! Now if that doesn't make you want to get all Angela Bassett in Waiting to Exhale on his behind, then I don't know what will! (If you don't know this scene, it's an angry black woman at her worst best.

"Take your #&$% and get out"

Let’s be honest, this isn't the first time celebrities have broken up over social media. Back in 2011, NBA star Kris Humphries claimed that he found out Kim Kardashian was filing for divorce just like the rest of us...by reading TMZ!

Clearly, there’s something in the water. 

It seems like social media can connect us with the world but its disconnecting us from each other.

I know girls that would rather subtweet their feelings than call their boyfriend to tell them that they’re upset.

“When he reads my status, he’ll know what the deal is.” Yeahhh, and so will the rest of the world! When you finally make up and post “He’s my soul mate, I love my babe,” all we can remember is how you told him off just last week.

Look, I get it. We've all had the urge to go on a Twitter rampage when our boyfriend gets on our nerves. But ladies, we need to check ourselves before we hit send. Perhaps we need to reinstate the throwback method of writing our feelings in our diary when we're upset. Hey, if its good enough for Oprah then its good enough me!

Seriously though, arguments should be kept private. By you putting it out there that you’re unhappy with your man, another girl might see that as the perfect opportunity to come in for the steal. And before you know it, you’re on sidelines looking for a new player. All is fair in love and sports right...

Now here is what you fellas need to understand. Maybe your girlfriend wouldn't be posting her frustration if you took a minute to rethink your social media choices too. The Instragram photo that you just 'liked' of the Brazilian model's butt cheeks with the comment “Hola mamacita, smiley face, wink face, tongue face" is probably not going to be okay. Even if you were "just joking". Whatever.

Tweeting something that was intended to be innocent may not translate that way to your girlfriend. When communicating face to face we have the ability to interpret one’s tone of voice, facial expression and eye contact. But all these things are foreign when it comes to Twitter and Facebook.

So, next time you're tempting to post something about your relationship online, think twice before you press send.

Just How Far Should Coaches Go?

Whether it's on the road, in relationships or at work, when someone loses control it often ends up on the web.  And for NCAA basketball coach Mike Rice, this reality is surely hitting home.

Rice found himself out of a job after a video of him hitting, shoving and berating his players with anti-gay slurs went viral. The taunts are surely a sensitive topic at Rutgers. It's the same university where student Tyler Clementi committed suicide in 2010 after his roommate used a webcam to spy on him kissing another man.

The tape made headlines after it was aired on ESPN's Outside the Lines. But surprisingly, Rice's inappropriate coaching style wasn't breaking news to the school. 

Rutgers athletic director Tim Pernetti was given the video back in November of 2012. However, in agreeance with the university president they chose to suspend Rice for three games, fine him $50,000 and order him to attend anger management classes. A decision Pernetti is now calling a mistake. Ummm, ya think?!

So this makes me wonder...Are we now becoming a society that places so much importance on winning that the needs of athletes are being neglected? And are parents now making a deal with the devil by turning their children over to coaches who will use whatever means necessary in order to produce champions?

While for three years Rice's players suppressed the abuse, Los Angeles Laker superstar Kobe Bryant says "he would have smacked the hell out of him." So why didn't any of the players retaliate against Rice's unacceptable behavior? I'm sure some of them are well aware that if they dared to challenge Rice they could kiss their playtime goodbye. But for others, it may not register as abuse, just his "coaching style".

So the question is, how far do YOU think coaches should go? What is acceptable?